Boundaries

All relationships in our lives require some sort of boundary.

Please understand that when you put up boundaries, you put them up for you and your well-being, and it may not be received well by the party you put the boundary up for. Think about it, when I own a home, a piece of land, and I decide to put up a fence, you ain’t gotta like it, but you do have to respect it! If you trespass, I have the right to call the authorities to remove you.

With boundaries, you don’t have to like my boundaries, but you do have to respect them, and if you do not, I have the right to do what I want with you. I understand that you may have never set boundaries before, and I also understand that culture sometimes, who am I kidding, most of the time does not care about personal boundaries, so it can be challenging. This however, does not mean that you can’t start to set them, mama Maya said and I paraphrase, “when you know better, you do better”. So if you’ve never set a boundary before today, please start today, it is never too late; expect push back, but stay firm and remember, they don’t have to like your fence, but they do have to respect it.