Rejection

Oooh that’s such a “heavy word”, listeeeen, rejection is not the end of life, we see it as such a negative thing, but what if we reframed how we see it huh? What if we change it to preferences? I prefer mango over avocado doesn’t mean avocado is bad, I just don’t like it. So should the avocado now go and change itself to a mango, or stop being an avocado? Yes, I know I’m being facetious but I believe you get my point. Someone not choosing you doesn’t mean your life is over, you are just not their preference. So Instead of looking at it like you’ve been rejected, why not just say well, I am not their preference, much like someone else is not my preference….why does it have to be soooooo bad? Tastes change, interests change, desires change, people change, heck even change changes, so again perspective matters Now this is why we should allow more than material or physical appearance, lust, or any other such frivolous things to define how we choose our partners, but that’s a whole other sermon….

Losing a relationship doesn’t mean something is lost, you may feel like you lost your investment, but don't forget all the stuff you gave - time, money, love, etc … they are not yours in the first place. You’ve been richly given, and there is no budget for those things. If you lost someone, you didn’t lose anything, they lost you. They lost the blessing that is connected to you, and maybe you had no business being with them in the first place anyway. In any case, ice cream is perfect without the cherry on top, they do not and should not complete you, but they are an addition that makes your life even sweeter.